of late ‘celebration of wedding anniversary’ has become very important.
why do we celebrate it ?
is it to show everyone that you are happily married ?
is it to spoil yourselves with good time (as a compensation for 364 days of misery) ?
is it to exchange expensive gifts ?
is it just to thank God that marriage is still alive ?
Then there is an absurd notion among wives, especially to the north of Vindhyas, that it is the day when the wives should be pampered by the husbands. (you would find the wives literally driving the husbands to do various chores like hanging a flower pot, doing up the drawing room etc)
may be because of the huge dowry they bring.
I don’t think it should be any of the above.
marriage is difficult. one needs to work at it to make it work , and keep working at it to keep it working.
anniversary is a good opportunity (mainly because it comes every year !!regularly) to take stock of the work done and mid-course corrections.
it is a day when you could be kind to your spouse, extend him/her the basic courtesy that you would readily extend to a total stranger or for that matter even to your ex-spouse or old flame. can’t resist cut/pasting a joke 😉
A SHORT COOL STORY
A man and a woman, who had never met before but who were both married to other people, found themselves assigned to the same sleeping room on a trans-continental train.
Though initially embarrassed and uneasy over sharing a coupe, they were both very tired and fell asleep quickly, he in the upper berth and she in the lower.
Sometime past midnight, the man leaned down and gently woke the woman saying,….. ….. ‘Ma’am, I’m sorry to bother you, but would you be willing to reach into the closet to get me a second blanket? I’m awfully cold.’
‘I have a better idea,’ she replied ‘Just for tonight,…. .. let’s pretend that we’re married.’
‘Wow!……. That’s a great idea!’, he exclaimed.
‘Good,’ she replied. …………. .’Then get down and get your own bloody blanket from the closet.’
it is a day to reaffirm your commitment to each other, to your children, to spiritual development of each other, and so on.
but most of the time exactly the opposite happens. it is a day when people do a balance sheet check to see who has lost more or gained more from the union. a wife demands gifts/outing and a husband demands ‘peace’ ?!